Dating someone who is not yet divorced
It takes having a strong sense of yourself and your worth, having a very effective support system in place, and a sense of humor really helps a lot.
And being able to be empathetic and compassionate toward both of you is key. It basically describes what we’re all striving to be in our lives, and that’s WITHOUT the added trigger of your man being a nut as he goes through his divorce, and the anxiety you feel about whether or not this will all work out in your favor!
It feels like he’s the one for you but the strong emotions he feels for his wife are a challenge. She was a bitch, yet he seems to be grieving the loss of HER.
And you might think that means his divorce will be smooth, simple, and unemotional. You will have opinions about how things are or are not getting resolved at times – and that’s also understandable.
But there’s nothing like a not-yet-ex finding someone new to make the person who wanted the divorce in the first place have second thoughts about splitting up. As a result, your fun, new relationship with Ben will get bumped and bruised in the process of Ben’s divorce.
What you have to keep in mind is that separated is still married until the divorce is finalised and that means that there’s likely to be emotional as well as legal ties.
It would be handy if we could avoid the vulnerability that comes with doing the due diligence and taking appropriate action where needed.